1. First, realize that everyone has a choice. Everyone has a choice to either stay in a relationship or not to stay. Just because someone chooses to leave, that does not mean you are a bad person or there is something wrong with you. It simply means that is not the person for you and you are not the person for them. If you are meant to be together, you will be.
2. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up. This is a grieving process, so take the time to grieve. Even if you are happy the relationship ended, there may still be a sense of loss. You may feel sad, angry, depressed, frustrated, or evenrelieved. Whatever you are feeling is exactly where you should be. There is no right or wrong way to feel after a break up.Now, sometimes our well-intentions friends may say something like, “Cheer up” or "Snap out of it". Know they are only trying to help, but allow yourself to take all the time you need. You may even find that your emotions take on a mind of their own. One minute you're fine and the next minute you're a ball of tears or you're snapping at people. Be gentle with yourself and just allow those emotions to pass. There is so much truth in the saying, "Time heals all wounds".
3. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. Sometimes we may want to be in a relationship so badly or fear being alone so much that we will try our hardest to get back into the relationship that just ended. Everything happens for a reason. It may be that there is someone else out there that is more suited for us. Or it may be that the timing is just not right for the two of you. Whatever the reason is, accept where you are and know that staying stuck on what was will stop you from moving forward into what could be.
4. Take some time for yourself before you get into another relationship. I cannot stress this enough. I have seen so many people jump right into another relationship, not because they are invested in this new person, but because they do not want to deal with the grief and the possible discomfort of being alone. But let me tell you, there is so much growth that comes out of the in-between times. After a break-up, your mind and soul need to grieve and let go of what was and that takes time. This is also the time to discover more about yourself, who you are and what you want out of a relationship. When we jump into relationships too soon, you carry the baggage of your old relationship into the new one. This is why rebound relationships rarely last. Even if someone says, "The relationship was over long before we split up", there is still an adjustment period from the old to the new. Each relationship we have brings lessons to learn. The beauty of relationships is that they show us and teach us something about ourselves and those times in between are the perfect opportunity to uncover what we have learned and leave the baggage behind us.
5. Continue to believe in love. Sometimes after a break-up, people get tainted and bitter regarding relationships. Know that love is out there and as long as you are open to love, love will come. Don't allow one bad break-up to spoil the beautiful, fulfilling relationships that are waiting for you.