1. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback. This reminds me of that saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. When things don’t go as we expect them to, we are so quick to label ourselves as a failure. What is actually happening is that life is telling you there is a better way and you are being given an opportunity to move in that direction.
2. You have all the resources you need. Any and everything you need to be successful is available to you now. If you can embrace this attitude and make it your mantra, worries will cease and your goals will be achieved.
3. If something is not working, do something different. Simple, right? Don’t spend time and energy on things (and people) that you know in your gut are not in line with where you want to be or who you are.
4. If one person can do something, anyone can do it. No one has cornered the market on the ability to do something great. If you want to achieve excellence, look to the people who have excelled at what you want to accomplish and adopt the techniques that made them successful.
5. We all make the best choice available at the time. Every step you take is a choice, and the choice you make is determined by the options you believe you have. Therefore you will choose what you believe to be your best option based on where you are in your journey. Others may judge your choice as good or bad, but know that their judgments are based on their own beliefs.
6. The mind and the body are one system. What you think about and what you believe become your reality. Your thoughts affect everything you do and your body reacts to what you think about. Achieving success begins with the belief that you can.
7. People operate in their own unique map of the world. Everyone sees the world differently. We all have our own distinct way of looking at things based on our unique set of beliefs.
8. The map is not the territory. Your belief about your reality (the map) is not reality itself (the territory). Because we view the world through our own filters and beliefs, we may not see the world for what it really is nor be aware of every possible option and outcome. There is always another way of seeing things.
9. You cannot Not communicate. Even when you are not verbally speaking, you are communicating. Your non-verbal communication may even speak louder than your verbal communication, so be aware of what you are communicating to others and to yourself.
10. The meaning of the communication is the response you get from others. It’s important that you are clear when you communicate and do not assume that others can read your mind or they “should just know”. This assumption is why miscommunication is such a major issue between people. Remember, we all operate in our own unique reality. If your message is misunderstood, it’s up to you to clarify as best you can and do not assume the receiver of the message communicates the same way you do. Don’t be afraid to ask someone, “What did you hear me say?” You may find that they will respect and appreciate you even more.
Tips adapted from the NLP Coach Training Course, International Institute of Coaching Studies
Susan Thomas, Master Certified Coach, www.thesoulutioncoach.com
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